A Bite-Size Read for Your Health and Waistline
I have always been a stickler for the words we use. Maybe it started with the tutor I had as a kid who drilled into me the importance of choosing words carefully in every paper. As an adult and as a health coach, I see how much power language holds over our self-image and mental wellness. The way we describe ourselves can shape how we see health conditions, emotions, and even possibilities for change. One of the most meaningful distinctions I’ve learned is the difference between “I am” and “I have.” Especially in conversations around health, this small shift matters more than most realize. (I also talk about the use of the word “Don’t” in a podcast episode).
In the world of affirmations, it’s often said that “I am” statements are among the strongest commands we can use. They guide our thoughts, influence our feelings, and determine our behavior. Over time, these words can either strengthen or limit our mindset. When someone is struggling with their health or weight, they might say, “I am overweight” or “I am fat.” Doctors often echo this by saying, “You are obese” or “You are diabetic.” Yet, in many other cases, we use “I have,” such as “I have cancer,” “I have a broken arm,” or “I have fibromyalgia.” The distinction between these two approaches has a profound impact on both mental wellness and how we perceive health conditions.
Think of your subconscious mind as a garden and your conscious mind as the gardener. The words we use act as seeds planted into that soil. “I am” plants a seed that becomes part of our identity, while “I have” plants a seed that represents a temporary state, something that can change. In my work as a health coach, I see this often when people talk about emotions. Clients say, “I am anxious,” “I am lonely,” or “I am stressed.” Reframing these statements into “I have anxious feelings right now” or “I have stress today” immediately creates space between the person and the experience. That space opens the door for healing, resilience, and a new sense of control.
This small shift in language helps reshape self-image in powerful ways. It reminds us that we are not defined by our challenges. When we use “I have,” we allow for movement, growth, and recovery. We start to view health conditions and emotional states as experiences, not as permanent labels. That mindset fuels mental wellness, encouraging compassion and flexibility instead of judgment or defeat.
So here’s a gentle challenge. Notice the words you use throughout the day. When you catch yourself saying, “I am,” take a moment to reframe it to “I have.” Over time, this simple awareness can change how you think, how you feel, and how you live. Whether you are talking about emotions, habits, or health conditions, this language shift can become one of your most powerful tools for a healthier self-image.